You Nice... But Ya Homegirl...

For some reason, this has been a topic of discussion since last week but TODAY (Nov 29th)  was the day that ignited this blog lol (inny with my MoMo). Your always going to meet someone who you think is cute and cool as an individual so you can say they have your attention. Then it's the night you guys planned on meeting each other at the club, BWW, a party or somewhere public. They end up bringing their friends and your vision on just them starts to blur a little. They have that one friend who has a ridiculous body, gorgeous smile, captivating intellect or something they don't have that you admire on there friend. Now what do you do?....

Personally ME, Randy "B" (haha) its a tricky situation. Technically, your single and free to mingle with whomever you please (classic "I don't see no ring on my finger" line) but at the same time that's hell of foul because your jumping from friend to friend and not friend to stranger. But at the same time if you "both" never had any intentions for each other does it really really deep deep down matter? For most dudes they could careless about this but alot of females would be on some "I found him first" type of gig or think its wrong. If they were feeling him and wanted to test the waters to see where it could lead, I could see how that's wrong but if he was just somebody you wanted as a "homeboy" I don't clearly see whats wrong with it.

Then there's those people who break up with somone but want to give them restrictions haha. How you gonna leave somebody, move on in life and get you a new boo but there not allowed to do the same? Boo BYE! That was YOUR decision to leave that person, don't get mad at them for looking for a new happiness. If your boo is done and gone let it be, don't go chasing and loving somebody who wouldn't do or feel the same for you, #FAIL. Sometimes it does suck if that new boo or boo to be is one of your friends and yes it would seem like they've been planning it but thats not always the case (don't always assume.... without proof). What if they're better together than you and your ex were, would you hate them both for being happy? Whats the big difference between them talking/dating a friend than a stranger or either way your gonna be hating right? If one of my friends got with one of my Ex's or vice versa I would just laugh, I  wouldn't even sweat it because I'm in no place to tell someone who left me or I left them who they can and can't talk too, if your offended by it, then you know you never should've left in the first place.

But the purpose of this blog was to get answers aka "Opinions". I know everyones going to have a different view/outlook on this and thats what I'm looking for. Is it really that bad to be single and live the single life? To be single and still be in an invisible relationship with an ex? Riddle me this!!! haha =0)

Your So "Subliminal"

"I am not a robot" by Penguin Prison is on repeat so I guess thats my thinking song for this blog. Its been a while since I've posted a blog about "something" in perticular, I have a few written but ehh, just lil brain notes. So I chose to do this one on Subliminicity (doubt thats a word). People being subliminal have been on the rise for quite some time, it was even a #TT in the twitterverse for a good amount of time. Why do people do it? How does it make you feel when you do it? Its alot of things that come from just one subliminal quote. People go crazy with assumptions, people get offended for no reason, people just get weird. Sub's can be a good and bad thing, depending on when and how you use them. If you have perfect timing, you can use it, have people dumbfounded and go on with your day with a smile. Then theres those times when you use it and it attracts to many people and it becomes bigger than what you intended it to be. Theres times where you really want to tell someone something but dont know how they'll take it or know how they will and dont want to deal with it or times where you just want to get thoughts out of your system and a subliminal is perfect for that. Theres lots a ways to use them, lots of reasons to use them, and lots of pros and cons to come of them, chose wisely.

Stollen From The "Loc" ..

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Her and the 1 Upper Are PERFECT For Each Other

So I'm continuing my already bad day by listening to a certain playlist and then a song off the Kings of Leon cd plays and shit starts clicking. You ever had that friend that always wants to seem like they better than you no matter what? You got an A on your test, they got an A++, you on Facebook for actual friends, they on there for a popularity contest, you buy some gucci, they gotta go buy some gucci and louis, pretty much whatever it is thats going to make them "sound" better than you its gonna come out there mouth. In the Marines we call them "1 Uppers" because no matter what they always think they 1 step above/ahead of you.
      Then you got the friend that hate to be alone in certain situations. They in a relationship so you gotta be in one to, they know its gonna be cold at the club but don't want to wear a jacket so you shouldn't wear one to type of friend. Anywho what I'm getting at is its two people who fit this "friend" description PERFECTLY and to add to it they already talk to each other as in a relationship. I dont know why its so funny to me but its amazing how perfect they are. Shes a hater and is lowkey the reason for a certain situation or adding to that situation I should say, I dont even talk to him cause he staaaaays on that 1 Upper status perfect for each other, 2 headaches haha smh anywho I got other stuff I need to blog I just needed to get that out real quick.

You Got A New Man, Talk To Him...

I never fully figured out how people "move on" but they still want to be all in your circle. Attempt to brag to you about their new "love" or person they currently like, how their so in love with their new boo, how their the best they ever had, no ones ever made them happier yada yada yada but they still want to hit you on the regular like the two of you never had "something". What's the point of all that?

The only thing that comes to me is they want to make you jealous. Jealousy's not really my thing so if anything, that just makes me not want to talk to you even more. At the same time, some people try to make people jealous to prove a point or see where your heads really at.

If your "in love" with your new boo and the other person does get jealous and keeps it real with you on their emotions then what? Do you leave the one you replaced them with for what you once had or just be stuck in the middle?

Do Buff Girls Have Buff Na Na's?

So there's this panamanian chick at work. She's a lot prettier now than when she first started. She's HELLA toned though, you know like the first proud lesbian on your high school's girl basketball team, that type a toned. Big firm thighs, defined arms about 6 feet even. I never talk to her unless she's in my way. I don't know what it was about today but I looked in her eyes and the only thought that came to me was "she prolly got some bomb cooter"

5 minutes went by and then I remembered how swole she was. If I recall correctly, the vageen is a muscle and she's ALL muscle so would her vageen be hella strong too? Curiousity is about to kill the cat, literally in this case boohaha jp jp. But yea, answers/opinions?

Do I Care or Don't I?

All I wanted to know was if it was true that a guy being mad at a female after a relationship meant he still loved her or him being calm about things involving her meant he was over the situation. It lead to a bunch of other things. One person said yes it means he still loves her and he was my proof of that, because him and his future baby mama STAY going at it but everyone knows they love each other.

What if being mad is the way you express pain or the fact that your hurting? Probably means you still love that person right? What if you don't express the emotions/feelings your really feeling which makes you come off as being nonchalant/calm about the situation? That doesn't mean you don't care right?

I don't know where my heads really at with all this so explanation time haha.

What Hurts More?

So I'm laying here hungry AF and I just wondered does it hurt more to break up with someone and see them with someone else or to see them some years after and there still single? I was "obviously assuming" to see them with some else would hurt more but then I started thinking it out from a "still single" prespective.

Most people are single because:

A. Every relationship was just a new lesson learned on why to not be in one

B. Want to roam free with the buffalos |haha|

C. Their previous break-up hurt them so bad that they wouldn't risk their heart again

So what if they were still single because of you? Would it still hurt more to see them with someone else? Or to see them single because you completly 1,000% broke there heart? Just wondering...

B*tch He's Mine! (haha/No Gaytho)

I never fully understood the "you couldve at least asked before talking to my ex" rule that girls have. I'm sure you girls dont ask each other for permission to talk to strangers so why ex's? Im guessing maybe the relationship is on break, or you plan on getting back together shortly. On the friends part its still kinda foul because it makes it look like you sabotaged the relationship but what if your ex and your friend are way more compatible and he/she is ready to move on? Then what? I'd Appreciate it if someone Explains this to me, thank YA!!

Who Is This In Your Phone??

"Someone" I know just got into a major argument with there "mate" over a set of text messages. Text messages they probably never would have known about or would have affected there life if they never went through the phone in the first place which leads me to this blog. It never fails if your in a relationship that at some point your man/woman is going to grow through your phone. Even if you don't have sex messages or nudes of someone else, it will still start a controversy. Of course your mates gonna be greedy/selfish with your love but are you not suppose to converse with anyone else? What makes someone want to just go through someones phone? I've never went through any ones phone unless they went through mines but I don't/wouldn't want anyone going through my phone so I don't go through theirs. Of course if you find something like nudes, and flirtatious text your going to be highly upset but what if you didn't look through the phone in the first place? I think people are just looking for something to argue about sometimes because you've been to good to be true lately haha but that's just me. holla holla holla

Versus: Amber vs Rihanna

I was on MTO today and they had an article stating "THIS AMBER ROSE IS ONE FLY AZZ CHICA ... IF SHE KEEPS IT UP ... SHE MAY PASS RIHANNA AS THE BADDEST IN THE GAME!!!" Which shocked the hell out of me. Amber has terrific style and it seems like everything looks good on her, true but Rihannas been in the fashion game killing outfitts left and right. Ambers still kind of new on the scence so I dont feel she has taken as much risky fashion attempts as Rihanna which have all been flawless. But thats just my opinion, how do you feel about it?

Whats Wrong With "B*tch"s?

Of course the word "Bitch" is an offensive word to most women and oddly some men but why exactly? If its used in the context of comparing a female to afemale dog then I see how thats extremely offensive. What if it someone says "Your a bad bitch" with a charming smile would that still be offensive? Most likely yes but its being used in a somewhat positive matter so why? Personally I call my closest of closest lady friends bitches because those are my top bitches and I have a lot of love for them and they never take it as disrespectful. Of course if a stranger calls you a bitch you have all rights to pop off on 'em. Basically I just want to know whats wrong with "bitch" and why its such a hurtful word to some ladies. If the answers dont make sense im still using that ish haha

Versus: Alexis vs Amber

I remember when Kanye and Alexis were going out, i wanted that relationship. They seemed so happy and for each other. Ambers cool too, shes more of the in the spotlight type and Alexis was just chill. Who do you think is better, look wise and for Kanye?

Last Time I Checked, I was Single.....

Im sure everyone has a fan club full of people who respect you, support you and even a few members who more than like you. The people who take your niceness for more than what it is. The people who "assume" you like them because they like you. The people you see at the club or a party and they wanna be your left arm, follow you around all night, give you 30 minute hugs, and try to slide a kiss in. Then when you stand your ground as the single person you are, they wanna get sad and butt hurt because they played themselves. My favorite way of dealing with this is to simply tell them to "talk to the hand." Some people might think its mean, but you invading my personal space is mean. How do you deal with it and how do you feel about girlfriends/boyfriends you didnt know you had?

p.s. ol boy has some max ashy knuckles huh, haha

Versus: Light Skin vs Dark Skin

So I was on BlogXilla and came across his light skinned/dark skinned article. This has been and sadly will always be a fight over whos better. A documentary is being made to compare and contrast the opinions among light and dark skinned people, wish it was more open minded not so ignorant people but it still works. In my opinion everyone, no matter the skin tone has something different to bring to the table. That blacker the berry, the sweeter the juice slogan isnt always true. [haha] Here's his article, soak it in...

"There is nothing like the beauty of a dark skinned woman. The sexy dark skinned women w/ a nice even tone of color on her body. Shaped well, and has a solid head on her shoulders. She’s not stuck up, but still craves the finer things in life. You can gaze as her chocolate mountains of boobs and her flat stomach. Personality wise she’s down to Earth, willing to fix a flat, put together a tv stand and redesign your whole apartment. In the bedroom she’s down for whatever, willing to hit it from the back and try new things, and if she’s not down w/ it she will learn and master the topic. On the down side you will have to deal with tracks, naps, and Kool-aid w/ everything. She likes dark liquor and probably likes white guys deep down inside.

Now light skinned girl on the other hand… wow EVERYONE loves light skinned women, they are considered better than the rest. Having a light skinned women on your arm just says something about a guy. It says he truly understands what it is to live the good life. She demands the best cars, best clothes and best everything. She can hold a conversation and when it comes to an after sex drink, she will give you juice. 100% real fruit juice. You can’t beat that. On the down side you’ll have to hear about good hair, manicures and pedicures and her stories about videos she was in. Oh yeah if she doesn’t do it in the bedroom she’s not going to learn, she’s too good for all that freaky stuff.

On the real the color of a woman doesn’t matter. I have 2 dark skinned baby mother’s who are the sweetest women in the world. Dinner cooked, clothes washed and each can hold a conversation w/ the best of them. And you want to know something else? Every light skinned woman I’ve ever been with could do the same thing. Sure we all have stereotypes that we can be placed but at the end of the day love is love, color is color and it’s all the same in the long run. Many people have preferences, I know light skinned girls who will only date dark men and dark girls who will only date light men. Doesn’t mean anything other than something in their past has effected them to be as such and who are we to judge anyone for THEIR preference? What you eat don’t make me Sh*t."

p.s. I'm light skinned, these otha brothers pale haha

All Credit to: BlogXilla

It Was Fun But Your Bestfriend....

So me and a friend were talking about her and her ex breaking up and now his bestfriend is doing the most to get with/at her. My personal opinion; if two people break up and they have no want or incentive to [ever] get back together, shouldn't really trip over who each other is see'n. The fact that it's a bestfriend does complicate things becuause chances are when the two of you hang out your ex is gonna be in the picture as well. What if the bestfriend looks way better and thats who you wanted in the first place though? [haha] What would you do?

Versus: Chicks in Kicks vs. Ladys in Heels?

Credit To: The Essentials

Which ones better, sexxier, more appealing? I love a chick in sneaks [jordans are a major plus] but ladys in heels do thangs to me [haha] Ladys what do you prefer to rock? Fellas what would you rather see a female rockin'?